This Valentine's and this month give the love you want to see happen!  I've learned in this life, no one is perfect. Yes we all have greatness within us but we also all have weaknesses, flaws and things we all need to improve on. These days there are so many choices and options but we have to choose to commit, walk in integrity, create and put in much work towards the relationships we want. Sometimes it blows my mind to see the things I see. True love to me is true commitment! Commitment means loving each other no matter what and staying committed to the commitment. Unfortunately, I can say I have not met very many maybe only one or two couples in my life who genuinely love unconditionally. It's sad how many people pretend and live these fake, pretentious lives and are miserable inside yet they front for society. Life is too short! Ain't no future in your fronting....It's a new beginning, this holiday look inside and do what you can do to improve your relationship.   Love is selfless and wanting the best for someone else. Are you elevating and truly loving your spouse unconditionally? Many want better and not worse, richer but not poorer (this dose not always mean financial) and whatever happened to death do us part like our grandparents had??? Tyler Perry used the 80/20 analogy in his movie where the couple was asked to take a paper and write down everything they liked and disliked about their mate and if the good out weighed the bad by at least 80% then the relationship was worth salvaging but if the bad outweighed the good then maybe you need to re-evaluate your situation and get some counseling. It's sad how many leave the 80% only to end up with the 20%...Married folks, STAY together, the grass is not always greener on the other side you  have the power to create a pasture but it takes work. Give the love you want to see happen!  Remember no one is perfect and you don't let go of a Bentley just because it has a few scratches..... I look at Obama and his wife as role models, yes like many couples I'm sure they too have there issues but they are being great role models for society today. It would be so nice if couples could try to out love each other forever......I imagine it takes an abundance of unconditional love, respect for one another, lots & lots of forgiveness and honest communication to foster those types of relationships. So more important than giving gifts this valentines day (however get the gifts because they are symbolic of your love) stay and re-commit to being the best husband or wife, significant other and person you can be! We're counting on you!

Singles- If your dating do something special also if you have been blessed with someone special in your life. Singles never settle & always evaluate your relationship before moving to that next stage.  Use the 80/20 rule. Is your significant other showing through actions they really care? Build a foundation of love, trust and open communication. I've been married and believe me what you ignore before the marriage intensifies after the marriage if you don't deal with your major issues upfront.  Make sure you are moving in purpose and being the best you - you can be! It is so easy to lose yourself in another person and forget who you are. Make sure you are fulfilling your life's purpose and the two of you have common purpose together. Work on mutual support and respect.  Collectively write your goals down. I journal and something magical happens when I write my thoughts, dreams and goals!
If you don't have that special person its okay. Remember rejection is protection! I know how hard it can be experiencing the holidays alone, but this day will pass and on the 15th its back to normal. Take time for yourself! As a single person you can truly do you! Treat yourself to that massage you always wanted, redecorate a room in your house, get organized,  spend quality time with your kids, give to another person you know who may be alone this holiday or just getting over a relationship, volunteer for a charity, there are many things you can do. Celebrate you and make a difference!